Knowing your Partner Will Lead to Successful Relationship Counselling - New Book May Change The Approach To Relationship Therapy

    GREENVILLE, SC, January 19, 2010 /24-7PressRelease/ -- For Better or For Worse: Am I in Love with a Giver or a Taker? is a new book that will impact relationship counselling as none has before. Written by Robert A. Moss, Ph.D., ABN/ABPP, and G. Rex Walker, Ph.D., the self-help book explains how intimate relationship behavior patterns develop and are maintained as a result of the design of the brain. Based on the simple behavioral principle that humans attempt to control their world to activate positive emotions and avoid negative emotions, Moss and Walker provide a provocative discussion of two distinct patterns - Givers and Takers. There are two distinct minds that exist in the brain. The left side controls language, including memories of language. The right controls emotional processing and the memories of emotions. Just as we each learn our native language, we also each learn our native emotional language. The emotional memories are responsible for determining what feels positive and negative. Thus, people continue in specific patterns of behavior in relationships throughout their life based on their native emotional language. Since relationship therapy depends on a clear understanding of one's partner, the book provides accurate descriptions of what does and does not work in dealing with each personality type, to therefore improve the effectiveness of relationship counselling.

The thing that is unique about the book is that it is based on the Dimensional Systems Model of cortical functioning, in which cortical columns are implicated as the binary unit (bit) at which memories are stored (Moss 2006.) This is the only professional article that clearly suggests how memories are formed and stored in the brain. The model has been used to describe a new theoretical model of psychotherapy, Clinical Biopsychology, and an approach called Emotional Restructuring which is directed toward negative emotional memories tied to detrimental relationships (Moss, 2007). One aspect of treatment involves presenting information to patients on relationship behavior patterns, which is the focus of the book written for lay audiences. Both professional papers are available for review at Dr. Moss' website.

Moss, R. A. (2006) Of bits and logic: Cortical columns in learning and memory. The Journal of Mind and Behavior, 27, 215-246.

Moss, R. A. (2007) Negative emotional memories in clinical practice: Theoretical considerations. Journal of Psychotherapy Integration, 17, 209-224.

His practice, in which he specializes in relationship counselling and relationship therapy, is based in Greenville, South Carolina.

For more information visit www.emotionalrestructuring.com

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